- Category: Asexuality 101
- Published on Friday, 02 December 2011 21:09
- Written by CF_Asexual
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There seems to be a perception that Asexuality is inborn-that one is born Asexual and stays that way for life. However, that is not always the case, there are Asexuals who were previously sexual and sexuals who were previously Asexual. Sexuality is fluid for some people*.
This is not to say that one consciously chooses to become Asexual-or sexual, for that matter. For some, it may be a gradual process from sexual to Asexual or vice versa. For others, something might've triggered a change from sexual to Asexual or vice versa.
*This is sometimes called flexisexuality.
This is silly. Just like someone go from gay to straight, someone can't turn asexual. If someone suddenly "turns asexual" that's a sign that there is something very wrong and they most likely need to see a doctor. This article is offensive. People would be all over this if it was written on a news site for gay people.
Hang on. Is that necessarily true in every case? And I'm not sure I like your wording on this. Granted, I don't know how I would change it. But if there's a situation in which one becomes asexual, does that mean there is necessarily something "very wrong" with them? And what would you say is "wrong" about it? I don't... I don't like the wording.
You see, I used to be sexual. Very much so. Strictly straight too. Then somewhere along the line I discovered a capacity for romantic and physical attraction to my own gender. But as I was comfortably settling into the role of being a bi, my sexual needs started to disappear. Wasn't obvious at first, but sometime after 2 years the drop in my libido became noticeable. It's been four years since then; and I no longer feel even the urge to kiss. Women, men; no matter what the situation or how wonderful the person, nothing does it for me anymore. Even in the midst of being in love, the most I feel like doing is hugging or holding hands.
And what bothers me the most? Whether this is natural. I couldn't have done it on purpose; in fact I was worried about how it would affect my relationship. So I'd really like to know if I should see a doctor about it.