How to overcome Asexuality and other impossiblities
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When looking over the stats for Asexual news, there are many search phrases that bring people here that are quite amusing. Perhaps one of the best is “Is there student sex in sexology classes”? More research is needed on this topic, but there were not many volunteers among the Asexual News staff. The question, while amusing, is not cause for concern. The phrase that brought someone here that evokes sadness was someone looking for an answer on how to overcome Asexuality.
AWStats, the tool given by the hosting service on this site, gives a web master a lot of information about what brings people to his site. The service does not tell the person reading the statistics what the intent of the person conducting the search was. Although this reader found their way to the Asexual News site, they probably did not find what they were looking for. (They may have found their way to the same site using the cakenews.info domain). Sadly, some other website probably gave them the information they wanted. Here, they could have found links to the information they needed.
Asexuality is not something a person can overcome. As with any other orientation, it is a part of who a person is. Trying to overcome it can lead to more severe mental problems down the road. Accepting any sexuality that does not fit with societal expectations is a difficult process.
The program does give the tools to find the searcher's IP address and their rough geographic location, but a real life search would be impractical. Law enforcement personnel would not look favorably on such an action either.
Such topics are best left to AVEN and other Asexuality 101 web sites, but the fact that the search brought someone here means it needs to be addressed on this site. The medical profession does not fully accept Asexuality as a valid orientation. Doctors and psychiatrists will not fully accept Asexuality for many years. The movement is deliberately challenging some of society's deeply held assumptions.
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@Melissa Jones: Be careful, just because something is fluid doesn't make it a choice. Sexual orientation can be fluid, and this applies to all sexual orientations including homosexuality. But not everyone's sexual orientation is fluid, and for the ones that are it isn't a conscious choice. It's just something that happens.Usually when people refer to sexual orientation being fluid, they're also referring to a change over time. For example people don't go back and forth from being gay and straight depending on the week, usually it's person A used to have x sexual orientation when they were younger but now they have y sexual orientation.
On the AVEN General FAQ page, it states
“ . . . sexuality can be fluid, and it can change over a period of time for some people. If you find that you have little or no sexual attraction to other people now, then you can choose to identify as asexual.”
Are there certain people for whom asexuality is fluid and a choice, and others for whom it is permanent? How does the fluidity (or lack thereof) of asexuality compare to the now-better-understood lack of fluidity of homosexuality?