Dan Savage recently asked one asexual letter writer would afflict himself as a normal person. Savage, a gay columnist from Seattle has found himself at odds with bisexual and transgender people in the past.
Savage, who also had trouble dealing with the concept of Bisexuality, has touched on Asexuality in the past, saying that Asexuals should stay out of relationships and must reveal their orientation by the third date. People sometimes do not know about their sexuality until their adulthood. At the time, they follow the societal expectations and may get married. Realizing differing sexualities is a painful process for both parties involved in the relationship.
After reading the column, a sex therapist might argue that the issue is one of radically different sex drives. A marriage counselor would suggest working out a compromise. Savage's response lacks compassion and fails to acknowledge people make mistakes. The letter writer compounded the mistake by airing his disappointment publicly.